Woman Issue 157
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Welcome to the 157th
edition of the MLM Woman Newsletter.
I am dedicating this issue to all the wonderful dads, grandfathers, sons, and uncles out there!
The month of June marks the beginning of summer and with it comes slower days and a chance to take some time to relax and rejuvenate with those you love.
Our focus this month is on communication -- both with yourself and with others, and a little advice on mental decluttering and building your expert status thrown in for good measure.
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Quick Tips for Overcoming
By Linda Locke
You know that feeling you get when you can't think of a single thing to twitter about? The fear that hits you in the pit of your stomach when that blank 140 character box appears on your screen? You, my friend, are experiencing the dreaded Twitter's block and it can strike at any time. It's a lot like writer's block and left unchecked it could lead to a prolonged absence of tweets and twitter joy.
But never fear, there is a cure. And it won't hurt, I promise. Here's my 7 quick tips to help you prime the pump and get your tweets flowing freely again.
- Ask a question. Think about anything in your business, job or life that's annoying you or that you'd like some help with and post a short question about it.
- Answer a question. Give back by sharing your knowledge and experience with the Twitterverse.
- Share an inspiring quote that is insightful or intriguing.
- Retweet something you found helpful or interesting.
- Share your love of something techie, such as your iPhone, Wii, Mac etc.
- Share a link to a blog post or other web resource that you found helpful.
- Join in the conversation. Find an interesting conversation and dive it.
See that wasn't too painful, was it? Just keep this short list handy and you'll never experience Twitter's block again!
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The Power of Self-Talk
You talk to yourself constantly. This inner dialog, or, self-talk, is critical to your professional success. The key is knowing how to harness your self-talk and steer it in the direction you want it to go. Easier said than done? Here are a couple of tips to get you started.
By Kathy Porter
To create success, start with positive thoughts. Your thoughts, whether positive or negative, will determine your actions and those actions determine your outcomes. Play close attention to your thoughts as you translate them into words.
Are you selling widgets or are you building your widget empire? When you think of your clients, do you need more of them? Better than that, think of yourself as a client magnet attracting new business daily. Let self-talk become a tool you use to visualize positive outcomes.
Feed your brain with a diet of positive books on personal development. The public library and local book stores are well stocked. Don’t forget to ask your friends for their recommendations.
If you’re worried about where in your already jam-packed life you’ll find the time to actually sit and read, fear not! Allow an extra thirty minutes before bedtime to read just one chapter.
The more you read for self-improvement, the better your mental edge becomes for deliberately replacing negative images and words with positive ones. Your goal is to move into a state of fluency so that your word choices are always naturally up-beat and positive on every topic, all the time. In other words, work on this skill set until it becomes habit.
If you honestly engage in self-improvement, you’ll have private moments of epiphanies. One of my epiphanies came when I realized that to achieve my goal of perfecting my self-talk, I would need to refrain from participating in gossip…forever. Words, can empower other people or they can cripple them. Gossip is one of those insidious habits that robs your positive energy, language and posture
Once you’ve mastered your own self-talk, have fun with it! Start each day with an inner dialog pep talk. Before leaving your house, coach yourself. Like this. “Today is my time. People can’t wait to meet with me because they know that what I offer is valuable. I am a client magnet attracting a tidal wave of new business.” And then, look out! That tidal wave is just around the corner.
About the Author
Kathy Porter is an avid reader, eternal optimist, dog lover and veteran of the direct sale/network marketing industry. She can be reached at: www.KathyHPorter.com
10 Can't Miss Ways to
Decluttering is one of the most powerful self transformation tools I know. I believe pretty much everything comes down to decluttering one way or another. Letting go of what no longer supports you in being all of who you are - sounds simple, right?
Declutter your Mind
©2010 All Rights Reserved - Vicky White
What if you want to do a big mind declutter? It's not like you can use the same principles as decluttering your home. Imagine: first, completely empty your mind - clean it out, look for cobwebs, space clear it, possibly paint it, and only then put back the ideas and beliefs that support you in where you're going. Let go of the ideas and beliefs that represent where you've been! Get them out of your mind and out of your environment. Your old ideas and beliefs are someone else's treasures!
Yes, well..... if only it was so easy!
Here are 10 can't miss ways to declutter your mind (when the advice above doesn't work!)
1. Morning Pages: a powerful way to declutter your mind. These are 3 pages of stream of consciousness writing. Start moving your hand and don't think, don't stop, don't edit - just spew out everything on your mind. Best done first thing in the morning for greatest effect! You'll be surprised what comes out - some great pieces of inspiration even. I asterisk anything that seems brilliant as I write (without stopping) and at the end grab these gems and tear up the rest. Just as with any other kind of clutter, it's counterproductive to hold onto the clutter in your mind!
2. Hell yes, Hell no, maybe: my coach, Andrea Lee introduced me to this concept. For the creative entrepreneur types among us - and others, this is great for sorting your idea clutter. Start with three columns and as you consider each possible project/service/offering you have in mind - put it in the 'hell yes'. 'hell no' or 'maybe' column. It's amazing how well this works - looked at like this your ideas almost sort themselves. Then go forth with the 'hell yes' list!
3. Watch less TV, read fewer papers, be really picky about what you put in: what goes in comes out! What are you choosing to feed your mind with? Is it more like white sugar, white flour and preservative laden food that comes in boxes? Or is it fresh, organic, living ideas that feed your soul? In 1998 Americans watched TV for an average of 5.1 hours/day. That's 10.92 weeks/year watching TV. That calls for some serious decluttering and the best way to do that is to make conscious choices about where you put your time and what you put into your head. Without all that rattling around in your mind, how could you use that 10.92 weeks of YOUR year?
4. Make a list and prioritize: get it out of your head. Here's a great way to simplify your list and take the pressure off. You'll end up with these three lists:
- Tasks that are critical to do today. This means things you'd stay late at work to complete - not things that would just be nice to do today. This list will probably have 3-5 things on it and you'll discover this takes a whole lot of pressure off.
- Then create a list of things you need or want to do in the next 1-2 weeks. Write any deadlines beside items. These are things that will either move up into your critical list as days go by, or you will do when you've completed the critical list items.
- Then your third list is anything else you think of that needs to be captured.
This system will declutter your mind and give your days a feeling of spaciousness. Make a new list each day - updating your critical list. See how this works for you!
5. Eliminate: now you've identified you to-do list you can probably see some items that are really not that important and certainly not essential to your life. Eliminate the non-essential. You can declutter your mind really fast this way. Now, do less. If you do less you'll have less on your mind and most likely have more fun with the things you do!
6. Breathe: focus on your breath in and your breath out for a few counts. There is really nothing all that important for these few minutes. Do this several times a day and you'll find a calm coming over you.
7. Take a renewal day: this is a day for YOU - nothing planned, no to-do's, no 'shoulds', ideally no computer/cell phone/work! This is a day to follow your heart - what do you feel like doing at any particular time? If a day feels like too much of a stretch, try half a day. After all this is what the sabbath used to be about. Unplug for a whole day and the inspiration you receive will be a big pay off! I know my business is more successful when I take this time away from it - sounds crazy I know but it's true.
8. Declutter your environment: very powerful. This will bring you clarity and peace like almost nothing else. You'll shift your energy and most of my clients experience mo'ney coming to them from all kinds of unexpected places as an added bonus! Experience the magic - start with the area of your home that bugs you the most- that's where you'll experience the biggest bang for your buck!
9. Single Task: doing more than one thing at a time ensures you do not do anything well and you do not receive the full benefit of anything. All it does is makes you feel like you're being very efficient whipping through your to-do list. But put #4 into action and do one thing at a time and you'll not only get way more done but you'll feel way more spacious and will not be cluttering up your mind with half baked ideas and actions.
10. Go slower: possibly counter intuitive but this is similar to some of the other tips here - being present, being focused, doing only what is important to you, feeling your experience - all combines to make a less cluttered mind and a happier YOU!
What are YOUR favorite ways to declutter your mind?
About the Author
©2010 Vicky White, The Inner Feng Shui Coach. Get Vicky White's FREE "5 Biggest Attraction Mistakes " report and her FREE articles to boost your creativity and your bottom line, at: www.LifeDesignStrategies.com
Don’t Be a Trash Talker
By Ruth Hegarty
I was recently reading a study that found that close to 95% of people are unskilled, unpracticed or amateurs in the art of interpersonal communication. That shocked me. In essence, this study is saying that 95% of people “talk trash.”
Working toward mastery in communication is something I often talk to my clients about since we communicate all the time yet tend to think about it very little. This article outlines several key communication concepts that, when practiced and incorporated into your personal and professional conversations, really amp up your results and feel SO much better.
First, understand that you communicate ALL the time and it’s an extremely powerful and effective process when done mindfully. You began communicating at birth and will continue your entire life. In fact, the majority of your days are spent communicating, so communicating well is vital to the success of any endeavor. Even if you don’t actually say anything, you’re still communicating. You may even talk to yourself when you’re alone (I do this myself). And never underestimate the power of your inner voice to impact your quality of life in all areas.
There are many reasons for engaging in communication including to inform, to persuade, to entertain, to motivate, to structure and control or world and our understanding of our world, to create, to critique and make people feel comfortable (and in some cases to make people feel uncomfortable). You can develop effective communication habits like you would develop any skill: by coming to understand both the why and the how-to of communication and then practice, practice, practice.
Keep in mind that all behavior is potentially communication. Any aspect of your behavior may communicate something to someone if they perceive it as such. That’s why even when doing and saying nothing you may be conveying a message. In business it’s particularly important to be aware of this aspect of communication as it’s impossible to avoid being “on display.” You inevitably find yourself communicating something to someone whether you are aware of it or not. This is how reputations are formed. Managing your communication helps you manage your reputation and how you and your business are perceived in the world.
Let me share an interesting statistic about communication with you. The bulk of how we, as humans, communicate with each other actually has very little to do with our words. Body language – posture, eye contact, etc. – represents the majority of what actually influences people when you communicate. Body language accounts for 55% of understanding in communication. Your body language is impacted by your attitude and self-esteem so how you feel about yourself, your life and your message influences how well you communicate. Pretty interesting, isn’t it?
The quality of your voice – your tone, pitch, etc. – accounts for 38% of communication meaning that how you use your voice affects someone more than what you say. Picture someone whispering vs. shouting the same words or giving an authentic compliment vs. using a sarcastic tone of voice. Not surprisingly, the quality of our voice is also affected by how we feel about ourselves.
So, what percentage of the impact of our communication and the behaviors that result are influenced by the words we use? If you’ve been following the math, you know it’s a mere 7%! That’s pretty shocking when you think about it. Now, I’m a huge fan of words and believe strongly that we should pay careful attention to our words. However, the words alone, without the underlying attitudes, beliefs and sense of self, are virtually meaningless and won’t get you the desired results you want.
Keep these things in mind when communicating and you’ll notice that you are more effective and enjoy the process more, too.
About the Author
Ruth Hegarty helps women entrepreneurs create confident and effortless success. As a certified Law of Attraction Coach, Ruth teaches women to unleash their powerful creator so they can work less and earn more. To learn more about Ruth and receive a free copy of her Effortless Success Toolkit for women entrepreneurs, go to Coach Ruth.
Building Your Expert Status - What's Your Two Cents Worth?
By Michelle Shaeffer
Are you looking for ways to get better known as an expert in your niche? Instead of talking about yourself and your business all the time, share your two cents on other experts, products, services, books, and more.
What products or services do you regularly tell others about? Just today I can think of several recommendations I've made - the shopping cart I use, a free website builder, and a brand of gluten-free pasta. Have you read any books lately that you found valuable?
If you choose carefully you can turn your reviews and testimonials into more great ways to get your name and your business noticed.
1. Write and Share Testimonials.
Take a few minutes to write honest testimonials for other small or home-based businesses and email them. They are likely to print them on their websites and be willing to include a link to you. If you can, include a picture of yourself or one of the item you're writing about in use. If someone sends a testimonial about my ebooks or services, with their permission, I post it on my website and link to their website so they get some free promotion. Many other businesses are happy to share their customer feedback as well.
2. Review the Books You're Reading.
Register for an account and review books on Amazon, B&N, and other similar websites. You'll get name recognition and build credibility by showing that you do your continuing research and stay caught up with business and trends in whatever your niche is. You can also post book reviews to Ezine Articles.
In addition to being a great way to get more exposure, writing book reviews also gives you an easy way to remember what the best and most helpful points from each book were. You can also setup your book reviews on your blog along with an Amazon affiliate link to add an extra stream of income for your business.
3. Blog Your Reviews & Testimonials.
Add your reviews and testimonials to your blog or website as appropriate. If you send out a newsletter, share your reviews of products or services that your customers would be interested in. If you're a business coach, tell your readers about the great tool or book you found. If you sell baby products, and find something awesome that compliments what you offer, tell your readers about it.
Share your two cents and build goodwill. You'll be helping connect others with great products/services, encouraging other small business owners and authors by providing helpful feedback, creating valuable connections with other small businesses for the future, and expanding the reach of your own business in the process.
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About the Author
Michelle Shaeffer, The Small Business Muse, publishes The Muses Brainstorm, a weekly ezine with tips to help you balance, manage, and market your home based business. With your subscription you'll also receive access to free gifts including 101 Free/Cheap Ways to Market Your Business, 119 Things You Can Outsource, and more. If you're ready for inspirational guidance and bright ideas sign up free at www.thesmallbusinessmuse.com.
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