Woman Issue 140
From the Desk of the Editor
Welcome to the 140th edition of the MLM Woman Newsletter with
some more fresh ideas to help your business thrive this fall.
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Starts with You
By Lisa Willard
What is MLM? MLM stands for Multi Level Marketing.
Another term is Network Marketing. MLM is a system of marketing
and delivering products or services directly to the end
user. Goods or "services" are moved through a
network of distributors.
It's fun, rewarding and life changing. The
best part, MLM Success can change your life.
MLM is a real business and does require work.
Here are some facts to consider about MLM and Network Marketing.
So many people think riches and success will come over night.
So, they jump from company to company trying to find the
next best thing. Think about this. Don't most people go
to college at least four years to prepare for their chosen
industry? Well, our industry isn't any different. Commit
3-5 years to your MLM Business. And the best part, you can
earn while you learn.
You also want to realize not all of your family
and friends will be on board with your new business. Actually
most won't. Don't take it personally, it's simply lack of
education about the MLM industry. So, surround yourself
with those who share your burning desire not those that
don't understand it.
Did you know the only people who don't succeed
in MLM are those who quit or don't commit? Be willing to
do what most others won't.
MLM success all starts with you. Your business
growth will be a direct reflection of your personal growth.
Develop yourself and your business will grow. Never stop
leading. Leaders lead, they do not manage.
Duplicate what others leaders are doing. Duplicate
as much as you can. Study what others have done to be successful.
This is really important in the beginning. Then, begin to
explore new ideas to match your personality and niche. You
will discover what is right for you.
Set goals and write them down. Have a plan,
but remain flexible. This allows you to put an action plan
into place, but remember, it may need to be altered along
Be positive. Feed your mind with positive
thoughts and influence. Stay away from the naysayers. When
you reach success, they will become curious. Surround yourself
with those who have what you want. Learn from them and pay
attention. Focus on the positive and celebrate your success
along the way.
Work your business consistently. How many
articles will you write? How many social network sites will
you participate in this week? How many phone calls will
you make? Control the actions you can and stay consistent.
Never give up. I said it before. Those who
don't find MLM Success are those who quit or don't commit.
Put your blinders on, stay focused and be ready for an amazing
journey. It might just change your life.
About the Author
Lisa Willard is a wife, mom and Network Marketing
coach. She is proof you can begin your home business part
time around a Corporate job, small children and a very busy
life. The keys are focus, consistency, and a burning desire.
Her passion is utilizing the Internet and
empowering others to strive for their goals and dreams.
Get to know Lisa better and sign up for her free report
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
© 2008 All Rights Reserved
One of the greatest mysteries we face is how to get,
and stay, motivated. But some new research into how our brains work
has provided exciting clues about how to tame the motivation
Recent research has proven theres a direct route from your
eyes to a unique part of your brain called the amygdala (ah-mig-da-la).
So what? This happens without going through the conscious portion
of your cerebral cortex (your thinking brain.)
Heres how it works, and why it is so important: Suppose you
are in your garden, you pick up a rock to move it, and a rattlesnake
crawls out. That image is propelled directly into your amygdala
to initiate an immediate life-saving response.
You leap out of reach of the snake before you are even aware of
what you saw, or why you reacted. Interestingly, this powerful direct
pathway can also be trained to carry images of anything
of critical importance to you such as your master goals.
The secret is this: The more emotion tied to those images, the
more likely they are to be rushed directly to your amygdala. And
once they're there ... the more likely they'll cause an automatic
positive response in support of your goals.
This is why packing your goals with hot desire and emotion builds
and sustains motivation. The more intense your emotion, the more
likely youll notice anything in your field of vision that
relates to reaching your goals even if you are focused on
something else at that time!
Building Motivation Power
We humans are motivated by basically two things gaining pleasure,
and avoiding pain. Anthony Robbins claims that that pain is a greater
motivator that pleasure, and I tend to agree with him.
Here's a little exercise that could help you fire up your emotions,
and get your amygdala shunt working for you:
Imagine walking into a room and meeting the you of
ten years from today. What will you look like? How will you be dressed?
Where will you be living? What will your lifestyle be like? What
car will you be driving? Will you be running a business? If so,
how successful will you be? What will your net worth be?
You really only have three choices about how your image of the
you of the future will look. Your choices look something
Choice One: Somewhere between how you are today, and a totally
broken mess. Heres where the avoiding pain motivator
could kick in.
Choice Two: An exact duplicate of how you are now except
ten years older. Absolutely nothing will have changed in a decade.
Again not a very satisfying picture for most of us, and perhaps
a strong avoid pain motivator for many.
Choice Three: A happier, healthier version of the you
of today. This will kick in the gain pleasure
Selecting Your Best Motivator
Obviously, no one would choose to visualize choice number one. But
in doing so, you may in fact create a hot and intense amygdala
So every time you see some image that reminds you of NOT moving
ahead, your amygdala shunt will spur you to take automatic action.
Make that phone call NOW, it will insist and you
will have the telephone in your hand before you even think to procrastinate.
If you choose option number 2, you are effectively saying that
nothing will change over the next ten years. You will be older
but your lifestyle will basically remain the same as it is today.
That is the you of 10 years in the future will
be identical to todays you.
You will still face todays problems and frustrations, but
will have ten more years of them piled up. This is an active decision
to remain in your comfort zone which is actually only an illusion
Its an illusion because in todays rapidly changing
world, what you call your comfort zone is being eroded beneath your
feet as you read this.
That leaves option number three. This is the arena of dreams and
wishes. If all we had to do was have a dream, and if would then
automatically come true, none of us would ever have to set goals
...and try to build the motivation to achieve them.
But the fact is dreams only come true if we wake up and go
to work. And unless you are a most unusual person, you usually find
that the problems and challenges of everyday life take priority
over working to manifest your dreams.
So obviously holding a happy picture of some future life
may NOT build the intense fire and desire required to create that
If your motivation is NOT adequate to overcome procrastination,
you might want to take a good hard, look at what you DONT
want in your life. If you can fire up some intense emotion about
NOT continuing to have that in your life, you may well find your
amygdala shunt pumping some new action-energy into your life!
About the Author
Jill Ammon-Wexler is a doctor of psychology, former consultant to
the Pentagon and a Presidential Commission, and a peak performance
advisor to top executives and entrepreneurs. Her powerful Take
Charge personal achievement ecourse is being used is 27 countries
by thousands of individuals seeking the ultimate in personal empowerment.
Come visit the exciting Self Discovery Community. Discover the
most interesting, unusual, stimulating and creative methods of self
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in Direct Sales
By Audrey Okaneko
Direct sales is all about creating sales. Youll create personal
sales retailing the company products to individual customers and
youll create team sales by building a team and supporting
their sales efforts.
In order to lead a team, youll need to develop and learn
some leadership skills.
Leadership is learned. We are not born with leadership skills.
Think of the many leaders you know. There are leaders in your local
PTA. There are leaders in your community. There are world leaders.
Each leader we know learned the skills that brought them to be the
leader they are today.
There are several ways to learn leadership skills:
1. Read books - Our local bookstore has an entire section
on leadership. Ive read books by several different authors.
Youll find that men and women teach a little bit differently
and youll find that depending on profession, skills may be
taught a bit differently also. If finances dont allow a book
budget right now, use your local library. Ive found some real
gems at our library.
2. Subscribe to newsletters One of my favorite authors
is John Maxwell. Not only have I read most of his books, I also
subscribe to his newsletter. Each newsletter offers new ideas and
new food for thought.
3. Attend seminars Over the years Ive attended
seminars ranging from how to deal with difficult people to how to
improve your listening skills. There are so many topics out there
to choose from. Not only will these seminars help you become a better
leader, but they will help you in every relationship you are involved
in, business and personal.
So what are some of the topics you should consider learning about?
1. Listening I know that we all have two ears and
we all hear, however really listening to the person speaking is
a learned skill.
2. Communicating I continue to learn more and more
about communication. It is such a fine art. Each person we speak
to and interact with is unique. How we communicate with one person
may not be the same as how we communicate with another person. Learning
how to effectively get our message to each unique individual is
key in leading a team.
3. Problem solving If you are in direct sales, problems
will come up. For example, its December and a top selling
product has become unavailable. You need the skills to be able to
help your team accept this in a positive way so that sales are not
lost. You need to be able to help your team present this small obstacle
to their customers, so that they also will not lose the potential
Consider investing 30-60 minutes per week into learning and developing
your leadership skills to help you build a larger network marketing
About the Author
Audrey Okaneko has been working at home since 1983. She can be reached
at email@example.com or visited
The Power of
by Maggie Kress
In today's environment, we need all the positive thoughts we can
think. Without positive thoughts we can fall into a negative trap,
a trap that is hard to pick ourselves up from. It took me a lot
of years before I found that the only way I could continue to survive
was to think positive.
I have been blind in my left eye since I was 7 years old. It was
caused from Toxoplasmosis, which is a parasite carried by either
cats or birds. I did everything any other child would do. I played
softball, but did not know why I could not hit or catch a ball.
I found later that it was caused by lack of depth perception.
When I turned 16, I wanted to drive a car so I went for my driver's
license. During the eye test, they asked me what number the arrow
was pointing to and I said what arrow? They knew immediately that
something was wrong so needless to say I failed. I cried, but they
told me if I could get a doctor certificate stating that I could
drive with one eye, they would give me a license and that is what
In 1964, I met my soul mate, and we married in 1965. I worked a
full time job in research at a tobacco firm in Kentucky. In 1967,
I had our first daughter, 1968 our second daughter and 1971 our
youngest daughter. In 1978, my husband was sent out of state. It
was only supposed to be a few weeks, but it turned into months.
I quit my job in Kentucky and the girls and I joined him in Los
And this leads me to the start of my Positive Thinking. One night
while driving the freeway, I noticed I could not see the passenger
side of the car. I thought I was just under a lot of stress because
I was supervisor over 3 shifts in the Quality Control Department
of a Laminating Corp. I was on call whenever the shift worked, which
was 24 hours a day. I lived 30 miles from my work so I was driving
in the dark both ways. I really thought that my Toxo had reoccurred.
I went to the eye doctor right away and they did an MRI on my eye,
but they could not tell what it was. I continued working and driving
the freeways until one night I had a very difficult time finding
my way home because it was dark and I could not see the lines on
Shortly thereafter, I resigned from my position and set out to
find something closer. The town we lived in was small and there
were very few places to get a job. I was sent to Loma Linda Hospital
where they diagnosed my condition as Retinitis Pigmentosa aka RP
(a progressive eye disease with no cure). I now knew some day I
would be legally blind, but I did not let that stop me. I went to
a local company that imported speaker components and I was hired
as a Quality Control Supervisor. My central vision was very good
then, but I had lost some of my side vision and was losing the rest
gradually. I did this for several years until I was no longer able
In 1989 I had to give up driving. This was so very hard for me because
I felt my freedom had been taken away. I am a very independent person
and always liked doing things for myself and not depending on others.
So after being out of work and on disability, I decided I needed
to do something and I thought about Avon. It was something I could
do from home or walk to neighbors. As you see my POSITIVE THINKING
was getting stronger. I no longer feared what people thought about
me and focused on being a better person.
You see you MUST think and care for yourself first. This
sounds very selfish, but it is not. If you have self confidence,
you can help others. That was a hard lesson for me to learn. I was
always a worrier, but when I turned 50, I realized my life was more
than half over and I needed to worry less. Worry does not solve
anything. If you keep a positive outlook, you are able to figure
what you need to do to solve the problem. Some problems are not
solvable, but we need to learn to either accept this and move on
or find another solution.
Several years later, my husband also had to go on disability. He
was the major breadwinner in the house. Normally, this would devastate
me when I could no longer think of a way out. We had to file bankruptcy.
But I decided to look at the things lost as just stuff that could
be replaced later or not at all.
Our middle daughter and her husband bought a farm in Missouri.
She did not like it because it was too rural so she asked if we
would rent from them and they would keep it as investment property.
When this happened, I thought, there goes my Avon. I had made Presidents
Club for the past few years and I thought there is no way I can
do it in a rural area because there are no homes close by and I
knew no one. But the first year I made it by 11 dollars. Now we
have lived here for 6 years and I have not only made Presidents
Club, but Honor Society for the past 3 years. So you see if you
keep POSITIVE THINKING you can accomplish your goals. Negative
thoughts just close your mind to any good thoughts you may have.
You really can do anything you set your mind to if you just keep
I am now 71 years old and to give you some idea of how much sight
I have, a normal sighted person has 170 degrees of field in each
eye. I have only 3 degrees of field in one eye and the sight I have
left is cloudy. My computer makes me feel like I am a sighted person
because I have special programs that help me to see or talk to me.
This helps me to feel useful. I now have my own website which I
am working to improve.
I really hope my story inspires you even if you do not have a physical
handicap, because negative thoughts can handicap you too. Just don't
ever give up. You can do it if you just keep a POSITIVE outlook.
About the Author
Maggie Kress is from Lebanon, Missouri. http://www.youravon.com/mkress
Simple Sales Strategy:
Talk To YourSelf!
By Tessa Stowe
You are about to speak to a potential client,
go to a networking meeting or give a presentation. What
should you be saying to yourself in those few minutes beforehand?
If you spend that time saying what I propose below, you
will effortlessly and naturally become very attractive to
your potential clients. This approach is very powerful,
I promise you.
What if, in those few minutes, you say to yourself:
* I desperately need this client.
* I want their money.
* I need to show them how good my services are.
* I need to get them to listen to me.
* I hope they think I am good enough.
* I need to remember my "script" and those closing
* I dont think I am going to enjoy this.
Do you ever say these kinds of things to yourself?
Imagine how you are going to come across if you are be-ing
like this? Desperate? Unauthentic? Uncaring? Not relaxed?
Attached to the outcome? Its all about me, me, me.
Like a salesperson? Oh no!
Instead, just suppose that in those few minutes, you say
* I am about to have a conversation to explore if I can
be of service.
* I really want to help.
* I want what's best for this person, even if they don't
become my client.
* My focus is on what I can give, not what I can get.
* I am committed to helping but not attached to it.
* I am going to put myself in their shoes. I will look at
things from their perspective.
* Its all about them, not me.
* I am going to listen, listen and listen.
* I have no expectations from this conversation.
* I am going to be me (open, honest, full of integrity,
* I am going to enjoy this.
* I am going to forget about trying to sell them something.
Imagine now how you are going to come across if you are
be-ing like this. Authentic? Caring? Relaxed? Committed?
Its all about them. Magnetic? Not at all like a salesperson!
If you are be-ing this way when you are having a conversation,
you will quickly build rapport and trust; people will listen
to you then. Talk about your solution and products before
you do this and what you say will fall on deaf ears.
I suggest you create your own written list by using mine
as a starting point. Add to it over time. Say these things,
out loud preferably, to yourself before you speak to any
potential clients. Then sincerely (or it will not work)
be like this.
This may sound silly to some of you but it works. Eventually
you will be like this naturally and getting clients will
become easier and easier. People will find you magnetic.
This is a simple and yet very powerful technique. Please
do not underestimate it. Try it out for yourself and if
you do, I promise, you'll quickly be on the path to getting
a lot more clients. Its all in the be-ing!
© 2007, Tessa Stowe, Sales Conversation
TessaStowe teaches service professionals and recovering
salespeople 10 simple steps to turn conversations into clients
without being sales-y or pushy. Her FREE monthly Sales Conversation
newsletter is full of tips on how to sell your services
by just being yourself. Sign up now at www.salesconversation.com.
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