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Linda Locke, Editor
If you are a mom (or even a dad!) building
an MLM business and wondering how to keep balance and
sanity in your life, then this MLM training segment was
written just for you. So, let's chat - mom to mom.
First, let me share a little of my story
so you'll know that I've "been there, done that"
and am not talking some MLM theory. I've built my business
through baby number one, a pregnancy, baby number two,
and on up to my current position of one teenager and one
pre-teen. All the while, my kids were at my feet and I
was home with them. Simple? No! Fast growing? Nope! Worth
it? Every second!
Perhaps like you, when my husband and I
decided to have children, we were adamant that one of
us would be home with them. Since he was the major breadwinner,
that meant I would be home. And, I wouldn't have wanted
it any other way.
But, it's hard to make it on one income,
so I began looking for a business. Long story short, MLM
kept coming up, and although I was skeptical, I educated
myself and jumped in.
Today, I am happy to be among the ranks
of the six figure MLM income earners, but it didn't happen
overnight; it wasn't easy; and there were many times along
the way that I wanted to quit. Does this sound familiar
Here are some ideas that I hope will help
you as you move along your MLM journey, especially as
a mom building strong kids and a strong business.
1. Get very clear on your reason why.
This will sustain you when someone tells you no, or
things get slow. Make sure your why is very powerful to
you and that it means more to you than what anyone else
might say or think. For me, the ability to create a fabulous
lifestyle for my family and to never have my kids in day
care meant more to me than anyone else's opinion.
2. Realize that as a mom with small children,
you will have to balance and prioritize in a different
way. Communicate with your sponsor and your team about
your commitment, your priorities and how you will balance
the two. Never feel the need to compromise your values
in building your MLM business. I didn't and you don't
have to either.
3. Get organized. And, I mean in
every area of your life. Organize your business and your
life. Set up one calendar with everything about home and
business. Mark out times that are strictly family, and
every other non-negotiable time in your life. Then, (and
this is important) find times each day that you will work
your business. Commit to these times, no matter how small
the time frame. Be consistent and don't procrastinate.
4. Ask for help in anyway that you can.
Talk to your spouse about taking the kids for an hour
so you can make calls. Talk about splitting up household
duties differently. Invest in help as your budget allows.
I know hiring a cleaning lady was a priority for me as
my business and profits grew. The grocery store can help
with this. Buy pre-chopped fresh vegetables; marinated
meats; and whatever you can to make things simpler. I
am a stickler on healthy meals and nutrition, so I have
never resorted to the "fast food" syndrome.
Get a crock-pot and use it! Make healthy, delicious meals
5. Form a babysitting coop with other
moms in your area. Then, use it and reciprocate. I
used the times I babysat other kids as playtime for my
kids, and then used the times when my kids were at a friend's
to work my business. This was an amazing resource for
me as my kids never felt like they were at a babysitters.
They just saw it as a play date with someone from the
6. Set clear goals and intentions for
your business. As Yoda said to Luke in Star Wars II,
"There is no try. There is only do, or do not."
Same for your business. Make success non-negotiable. It's
a marathon, and not a sprint. So what if it takes you
seven years to become a top income earner, or hit your
income goal. Will it be any less worth it? NO! Make it
7. Work on Self Development. MAKE
time for it. If you look for time in your schedule, it
will never happen. You must make time for your business
and make time for the very important task of developing
your mindset and growing your business from the inside
out. This is the single MOST important ingredient in your
8. Use Technology - Today, with the
internet and all of the tools out there, keeping in touch:
delivering timely information to your prospects; training
to your team and even putting yourself out there so that
people who are ready and looking for a business NOW can
find you through the search engines. Do NOT let technology
scare you. I had moderate success in MLM doing it the
"old fashion" way. I created a full time income,
but not "obscene money." Today, using the internet
exclusively in my business, I'm a VERY HAPPY Six Figure
Income Earner working about 30 hours a week. I'm able
to work fewer hours than the "typical networker"
because I let technology be my sales force and "PR
9. Get your kids involved - From
the time kids are two, and maybe even younger, you can
find helpful, fun and educational ways to get them involved
in your business. In my business, toddlers can place labels
on brochures, the bottom of candles and other products,
envelopes, etc. They can fold letters, stamp postcards,
and have a great time "working" alongside of
mom. Relax, and let go of your perfectionism. When was
the last time you paid any attention to how straight the
stamp is on a letter you received in the mail? Get them
involved in non-business activities, too. My 13 year old
son made dinner for our family the other night. Now, if
you are thinking he pulled out the box of Mac-n-Cheese,
think again. He made baked chicken with Apricot/Mango
Sauce; Quinoa; Green Beans with Pine Nuts and Red Peppers
and a salad with goat cheese. I'm really not kidding.
I LOVE to cook and have always loved having my children
cook right alongside of me. Now, he is ready to do his
own thing. Imagine what kind of time that offers me!
10. Compare yourself to no one! This
is so important. Who are you competing with? Only yourself.
That's truly it because competing with anyone else is
like apples and oranges. Everyone has different strengths,
weaknesses, life challenges, ambition and goals. Comparing
yourself to anyone else is a waste of energy. If you must
compare, then use yourself and your past accomplishments
as the measuring stick. Track your steps and then strive
for more each week. Your business will soar!
11. Reward yourself. Life is meant
to be fun and so is business. In the beginning, it's more
difficult to set income goals, because you are building
the foundation. This was always frustrating to me, until
I discovered that by setting activity goals in the beginning,
I could track my progress and feel good about the steps
I was taking along the way to make things happen. And,
as my action steps picked up, the rewards kept coming,
and my business kept growing, producing those earlier
elusive income goals. So, look inward and take outward
action. Get busy charting your own game plan and focus
forward. Along the way, treat yourself for a job well
done. And, it doesn't have to be extravagant. Make it
10. Believe in the power of your dream.
The subconscious mind is a funny thing. It does not know
the difference between what is real and imagined. So,
since YOU are the one who controls your thoughts, daydream
some powerful thoughts. Let your mind go nuts as you wander
through your own field of dreams. And, while you are "there,"
BELIEVE it! Believe it and it will come true.
As a mom, you have the ability to offer
the greatest gifts of all to your children and your family.
You have the ability to raise happy, wholesome and educated
children. You have the ability to contribute to the family
income without the need for make-up, pantyhose, or glass
ceilings. What a relief! You truly have the ability to
"have it all" and "have enough" without
compromising your children along the way. Grasp the opportunity
before you! I promise, you will never regret it.
About the Author
Jackie Ulmer, a veteran Network Marketer, has coached
and trained thousands of representatives both inside and
outside of her sales organization. Her passion is inspiring
others to succeed in their own dream. Contact her or sign
up for her newsletter through her website: http://www.streetsmartwealth.com
Goal Setting and Letting Go
by Donna Davis
those two thoughts seem contradictory? Can you actually set goals
for yourself and your business and yet relax and “let go”?
We read a lot about setting a goal for ourselves and then making
it happen. And there’s usually a lot of activity and “doing”
involved in working toward our goals. Letting go, on the other
hand, is more of “being,” relaxing and trusting. So
how can the two work together?
I’ve always been a planner and a doer, but I hit burn-out
in a previous business. Even though I had created a nice income
in that business, I made the decision not to continue. I was physically
and mentally exhausted. I had not reached my original (very high)
goal for that business and so the decision to stop pursuing that
goal was very painful at the time.
But once that decision was made, doors opened for me that I would
never have imagined. I now have two totally different businesses
and I’m having fun!
So how does this all work? First, get in a quiet place and write
down what you want to achieve, personally and professionally.
Write down specific goals for what you want, i.e., in business
that could mean sales dollars or numbers of customers. Personally
that could mean reading a book a month. Then write down what action
steps you need to take to accomplish that.
But then take a step backwards and look at why you want those
specific goals. Is it to be able to stay home and raise your children?
Is it to get out of debt? Is it to grow and become a better person?
Or to be able to help your community or a cause you love? Identify
the reason behind those goals and THAT is really your ultimate
Work your plan but take a few minutes each day to tune into your
intuition and your inner guidance. When you can get to the point
where you feel the underlying driving essence of your goal and
how that will enhance your life, then you can relax into it. You
do the work but listen to clues along the way so you can make
adjustments. My change was fairly major but your intuition and
instincts will guide you in making the necessary changes –
whether that’s big or small.
This doesn’t mean that you stop whenever things get a little
tough. But this does give you a roadmap to follow. Work your plan,
listen to your inner guidance, know the essence of your goals
and then let go of the outcome. If you’re on the right path,
your intended outcome will happen. And if you need to make some
detours, trust that those clues are guiding you to a better and
About the Author
Donna Davis has successfully built several businesses
from a local accounting service to a large online network marketing
team. To learn more about Donna, her family and her current business,
for free ebook “Entrepreneurial Spirits.”
Without the Blindfold
by Kalinda Rose Stevenson
"Good business leaders create a vision, articulate
the vision, passionately own the vision, and relentlessly drive it
to completion." - Jack Welch
Vision is the first critical element in business success.
Vision gives a clear picture of what you intend your business to accomplish.
Without vision, you simply don't know where you're going. Hard work
and perseverance cannot replace a clear vision.
It is something like the experience I had at a wilderness
camp in the Canadian Rockies. About twenty of us were blindfolded
and led to a maze in the woods. The maze was laid out with ropes strung
together, from tree to tree. The terrain was uneven, with bumps and
hollows in the ground. The ropes ranged from a foot to three or four
feet off the ground. Our objective was to ring a bell somewhere in
I know that I retraced my steps more than once, coming
to a place where the ropes met at a forty-five degree angle, or where
a rope ended at a tree. I knew I had come to that same corner before,
touched that same tree before. Then I would turn around and go back,
trying to find my way without being able to see. Throughout the course,
I met others, our hands touching on the ropes as we groped in darkness
along the rope maze.
Meanwhile, I could hear the bell ring at least three
times. That meant at least three of the participants managed to find
their way. One time the bell rang, I knew I was close. I could tell
the direction of the sound, but somehow, I got off track again. I
didn't find the bell. Most of us didn't.
I did persevere. I didn't give up, even as began to
feel frustrated that I couldn't get out of the maze. I kept trying
to find my way, back and forth and up and down along the ropes, but
I couldn't find my way with my eyes covered.
After we took off our blindfolds, the bell was clear
enough. With the blindfolds, most of us couldn't find it. All of our
effort was wasted effort.
I'm not sure what lesson the wilderness camp leaders
intended us to gain from the experience on that day. But as a metaphor
for doing business, the experience is a powerful object lesson of
what happens when you set out to accomplish something without being
able to see where we were going.
We had no vision. We were supposed to find a bell somewhere,
without having a clear vision of where the bell was. One of the participants
who finally did ring the bell said that he had missed the bell even
when he had found the right tree. He hadn't reached high enough up
the tree trunk to find the bell.
The whole process is something like going into business
to achieve "success." There is no clarity of vision in such
language. What does "success" look like? Will you know if
when you find it? Where is it? Without a vision, you can work hard,
struggle, come close without knowing it, and never reach your objective.
The word "business" is directly related to
the word "busy." Both mean "care," "anxiety,"
and "being occupied." This is a good description of my experience
of the rope maze. I have no idea how long we were on the ropes course.
It seemed like an eternity. I know I was very busy, continually moving,
continually working, continually trying to find my way, going over
the same ground again and again without ever reaching my objective.
I was busy, but my busy-ness was not effective.
Perseverance in the wrong direction is simply wasted
effort. Without a clear vision of where you are going, you can get
far off track, still working hard, and never accomplish much of anything.
The trap of doing business without a clear vision of where you are
going is that you simply become busy. Being busy is no substitute
for doing the real work of your business.
About the Author
Kalinda Rose Stevenson, Ph.D. Author of "No Money Limits For
Real Estate Investors: Discover The Money-Making Secret In The Monopoly
Game That Will Turn Your Money Struggles Into Money Abundance - http://www.nomoneylimits.com/
Holding You Back?
by Angela Thompson
I've missed many opportunities in my life because I didn't
know the answer or take steps to change my future. One of
the biggest mistakes I made was turning down a full grant
to attend college. Years later, I had a similar opportunity
to teach at a local business school. One of the perks was
attending classes for free, and I again turned it down. I
had been given a second chance to make up for the biggest
mistake of my life, and I didn't take it. I was full of self-doubt
and lack of confidence, but also something bigger, the fear
Does this sound familiar? Have you ever been presented with
that golden opportunity that you knew you wanted, but didn't
take? What stopped you? Who were you afraid of letting down
- your family or yourself?
It wasn't until turning 50 that I discovered something.
I wasn't afraid of failure, I was afraid of success. I got
so used to the status quo, that I didn't know what I would
do if I actually did succeed. How would my life change? Was
I ready for it? Would I know what to do? I knew how to struggle,
but if I reached success could I pull that off? Could I become
a leader or would people see through me and realize I was
a fake? I didn't know, but I suddenly knew I had to try.
More than half my life was over and I hadn't really accomplished
anything. I was no further ahead than when I graduated. My
life had turned out nothing like I planned. I felt like I
had been sleepwalking through it with no idea of where I was
headed or why. It was a major turning point for me. I finally
discovered the person I was meant to be. I stopped worrying
about what others thoughts or how they perceived me. It was
what I thought that mattered. I had dreams and goals and I
was determined to achieve them. I knew if my life was going
to change, then I had to do it. If it's to be, then it's up
to me, became my mantra.
Life took on new meaning. I decided that fear would no longer
keep me from experiencing joy in my life. I didn't want to
just exist. I wanted a life filled with passion, happiness,
success, and freedom. I wanted to try things I had never done
before. I wanted to have fun!
I had an opportunity to test this when my daughter took me
out for dinner at a little pub. She asked if I had ever played
pool. I told her no and I had no intention of starting now.
She knew my fear of being in front of people and trying new
things. Then I remembered the promise I made to myself. I
would not let fear hold me back anymore. Feeling very subconscious,
I walked to the pool table and let my daughter proceed to
teach me how to play. I even let our waiter give me some pointers.
And the most amazing thing happened. I beat her the first
two games. I felt like I had hit the lottery. It wasn't because
I had won, but because I had stepped out of my comfort zone
and tried. I had also taught my daughter a valuable life lesson
- "It's never too late to become what you might have
been." ~~ George Eliot
This new confidence inspired me to do something else I wouldn't
have attempted before. I attended a convention by myself,
where I knew I wouldn't know anyone. A little hesitant, I
walked into the room, sat down and started a conversation
with the person next to me. Later that evening, I introduced
myself to a girl that was standing alone and we spent the
rest of that evening and most of the convention together.
I found myself approaching more people and starting conversations.
My fears of being rejected were unfounded. People responded
to my openness and honesty and I made new friends in the process.
I was so excited. Each time I stepped out of my comfort zone,
my confidence increased.
I became aware of how thoughts or words, whether positive
or negative, have on our lives when heard over and over again.
They have the power to shape the person we become. Just like
a song you've heard and can't get out of your mind for days
after, negative thoughts can affect us the same way.
Studies show what you focus on most, you'll move towards.
If you focus on all the negatives in your life, then you'll
attract more of the same. These thoughts eventually become
habit. You start to believe them and your life becomes a self-fulfilled
prophecy. That's why affirmations are so powerful. They work
the same way. Focus on positive thoughts and you'll get positive
results. People are attracted to those that believe in themselves.
Here is one of my favorite quotes:
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
~~ Frank Outlaw
Decide now what it is you want. Where do you see yourself
in 5, 10 or 20 years if you continue doing the same things?
When presented with an opportunity or a challenge, ask yourself
some questions. What will happen if I don't take any action?
What will the outcome be? Well, most likely, nothing will
change. You'll stay stuck in your job, struggle to pay your
bills, or live in fear. Now, ask yourself what will happen
if you take that risk? You could find a job you love, be earning
more money, or have more time with your family. Which of these
scenarios appeals to you most? You have a choice. What actions
you take or don't take next will determine the course of your
Deciding what you want is your first step. Once you know
that, make a plan and know your WHY. Without having a clear
focus as to what you want to achieve, it will just be a wish.
Next, visualize it. See it, feel it, as though you have already
achieved it. Visualization is very powerful. If you see it
and believe it, your mind will find a way to make it happen.
Now, put your thoughts into action.
There is more I want to learn and experience and I'm ready
for the challenge. I hope you are too. There's a saying, "the
journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step."
Are you ready to take it? If not, what's holding you back?
About the Author
Angela Thompson has always had
an entrepreneurial spirit. She has owned a cleaning company, been
a Realtor and has been involved in several home-based businesses.
She and her daughter are currently independent distributors for
Mia Bella Gourmet Candles. Her desire is to help people realize
their potential and fulfill their goals. You can visit her at:
Becomes an Obsession
So, you’re looking into the world of Home Businesses.
Well, Congratulations! I truly think that the "home business
arena" is the wave of the future. With the rising gas prices
( congrats to Exxon for ‘record profits’ this past quarter!)
, and with what’s called "outsourcing" (I like
to call it "sell out sourcing"), causing thousands of
people to lose jobs - I am sure that working from home will become
As you’re looking at your vast array of choices
for a home business, let me tell you what to watch out for. Don’t
let your enthusiasm, excitement, and passion for being your own
boss, turn into an obsession. I’ve seen this happen to many,
many people through the years. They go from being stressed about
their finances, to being stressed from over work! If they don’t
catch themselves and rethink "why" they are doing this
to begin with, they will almost always fail.
My first suggestion is to remember "why"
you want to work from home to begin with. Number one, you need
an income. But also, you want to be available to your family.
You want to go to all of little Johnny’s football games and
little Debbie’s dance recitals. You’ve decided that
you don’t want your kids put into daycare. You may need to
take care of a loved one and can’t find a boss flexible enough
to let you do this. It might be that you are physically not able
to hold down a full time job. If you find that you are breaking
your own rules and working through a football game or dance recital,
or if you’re still taking your kids to daycare to get your
work done, aren’t you defeating the purpose of staying home
to begin with? That is a sign that your "new business"
may be becoming an obsession.
What I have seen is that people start comparing
their new business to their old job. In a regular job, you get
paid weekly. Money is coming in virtually right away. In a business
of your own, you may not see any profit for a while. Some times,
you only get a monthly commission check. People then start to
get anxious and work longer hours to try to get more money. It
seems logical to them at the time.
Then they become a workaholic and are missing all
the games, dances, recitals, family time. They quit going to family
functions because they need the peace and quiet to work while
the rest of the family goes off for the day. Then they start taking
their kids to daycare to get a few more hours of work in during
the day. Or worse yet, they put their little darling in front
of the DVD player and let them watch t.v. all day long, so "Mommy
or Daddy can get some work done."
Now, the family is starting to resent the business.
They hate it that you’re on the phone all day, or the computer
all night. They hate that you lock yourself in your room all the
time. Finances are going from bad to worse because you’re
"investing" in leads or advertising. It becomes a catch
22. If you slow down, so will the money, if you work harder, you’ll
lose your family.
My suggestion is very simple. Don’t start up
a home business when you’re desperate for money. If you need
money right away, get a job. Even if it’s part-time and you
work your own business part time. At least you have some money
coming in. Also, the next thing, and this is VERY important. Make
a SCHEDULE. Have "work hours" and stick to them! Adjust
the hours to coincide with your family’s schedule. If your
kids don’t get up til 9:00am work from 7am-9am. If the kids
take a nap during the day, schedule that time for work. If they
go to school, make those your work hours. Does your family have
favorite t.v. shows they watch at night? Schedule in a couple
of hours at that time. Be flexible and keep your family the top
priority. If you do that, you will be geared towards long term
The absolute worst thing you can do, and it will
kill your business before it ever gets off the ground, is to have
your family resent you and feel like they come second to your
"new home business". Sit your family down and discuss
with them what you are going to be doing, what it involves, and
what THEY can do to help YOU. Your family wants you to succeed,
but not at the cost of feeling second or even worse. Find a business
that is "family-oriented". Find something that everyone
can take part in. There is nothing better in life than having
a successful home business that incorporates your family - not
excludes them. Good luck in your future endeavors.
About the Author
Phinney has been involved with some form of network marketing
since 1990. Sandy says one key ingredient to her success has been
her "ever so patient and supportive" husband Jim. "It
just makes it so much easier to work your business when you're
not having to deal with an unsupportive spouse. There are enough
obstacles to overcome with a home business, having a spouse rooting
for you really gives you that extra boost when you need it most".
Sandy works her home business around her family's schedule. She
has 3 teenagers that support her as well. You can find out more
about Sandy, her family and her home business if you visit http://www.LuvRcandles.com.
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