Woman Issue 108
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From the Desk of the Editor
to the 108th issue of the MLM Woman Newsletter. This month we offer
articles to help you to get off to a great start in 2006!
New Year's Resolutions
If you're like me and have started to set some resolutions
for the new year to lose weight, exercise more, get out of debt,
get rid of the dreaded clutter in your house, etc, etc... that pesky
little voice is probably whispering in your ear right now, "That's
what you resolved last year too-- what happened? And what makes
you think you'll do it this year?"
Well, here's my answer to that: This year, I'm going
to concentrate on becoming the person I need to be to achieve those
goals. Instead of going on the latest fad diet or wishing that I
was less stressed, I'm going to concentrate on being a healthy person
who takes care of herself every day, and being a person who is prepared
financially and emotionally to handle the ups and downs of being
The truth is that we are often waiting for someone
or something outside of us to change, wishing "If only my boss
would give me a raise I could buy a house or if only I had more
time I could exercise more or be less stressed etc." and using
it as the excuse for why our lives don't change from year to year.
I call this the Have, Do, Be method -- If I had more
money, I could do what I need to and pay off my debt, and then I'd
be happy. The problem with this method is that you are waiting for
something external to happen to you like winning the lottery or
getting a surprise inheritance, and letting the course of your life
to be set by wishes which may never
Instead I suggest that this year you turn this around
and start by making the changes within yourself first by using the
Be, Do, Have method. Be the person you want to be and then you'll
do what you need to do to support that belief and you'll have what
you want in your life as a consequence. And you won't have to rely
on any one changing but yourself.
There are two books that I suggest you pick up to
help you on the quest to become who you really want to be and to
change the negative thought patterns that keep you from achieving
The first is The Speed Trap, How to Avoid the
Frenzy of the Fast Lane by Joseph Bailey and the second,
The Book of Mind Management by Dennis R. Deaton.
Both are available from Amazon.com online.
Now, go out there this year and become the person
you always thought you could be. You might be surprised about what
you can achieve!
Happy New Year!
Linda Locke, Editor
Profits at the Speed of Light
You Looking for the
MLM Fairy Godmother?
By Frances Anna Smith, Australia
When I was a little girl, I loved Fairy
stories. The notion that one day a Fairy Godmother could
come along and solve all my problems then transport me
to the fairy castle to live happily ever after with Prince
Charming held great appeal!
Then I grew up.
I realized that Fairy Godmothers don't really
exist. However, looking around the internet, it seems
that the approach taken by many entrepreneurs when trying
to recruit you into their "business" is to fool
you that Fairy Godmothers do exist.
You know the kind of thing:
"I will build your downline for you!!
Solve the problem of how to find your people...etc.
Now come on...
The Old-Fashioned scams tried to sell you
the Sydney Harbour Bridge! :) The modern scam tries to
sell you the dream of Financial Freedom with no work,
no money and no time.
They assume several things:
1. You are basically lazy. In reality
we all have a lower self. This is what these rip-offs
appeal to. But in the cold hard light of day we know in
our hearts that the only way to reach our goals is to
work for them - online and offline.
Building a downline is the pivotal point
of your business. This is where you build the rock-solid
foundation of relationships and long-term loyalty.
And let's face it..............
Why would you want a downline of people
who don't want to make an effort?
The fact is that these "downline clubs"
don't work long-term. Why?? Because they attract the person
who wants to put in no effort.
What does this mean to your business?
Take a look at successful people out there.
You'll find they have been disciplined, motivated and
hard working. Things like ethics, morals, values and honesty
count. It is not the lower self or the lazy person who
wants to expend no effort that achieves these things.
Nor is it the Fairy Godmother.
2. They appeal to the "Lottery"
Sure, it would be great to win a million
dollars. Who wouldn't like that to happen? Interesting
thing to note here though - of those people who win a
lottery, 99% of them are either flat broke or worse off
within 4 years. Why?? Because they didn't earn their money.
They have not developed the attitudes and personal growth
crucial to lasting success. This is the true payoff in
any journey to Wealth and success.
Get Rich Quick schemes DO work !!!
- for the people who devise them and exploit
the dreams and desires of the uneducated and unwary. The
serious business builder is wary of the seductive appeal
to the child in all of us who still hopes that Fairy Godmothers
So next time you open your email and see:
"I will build your downline for you
- Set up a web-page just like this one and wait for the
cheques to roll in"........
take a deep breath, remember that you are
intelligent, caring and rational, press DELETE !!!!
Then go on to success with a fair, ethical
and sensible company.
The good news is that they are out there
About the Author
Frances Anna Smith is a dedicated professional networker
who has achieved Diamond Status in her chosen company.
You can contact her directly at: firstname.lastname@example.org
10 Lessons Cancer Taught Me
by Donna J. Davis
I was 39 I scheduled a doctor's appointment to have a lump in
my left breast checked. After a mammogram, the doctor said that
there appeared to be a problem on my right side. Well, being the
expert in all things at that time in my life, I told them there
must be a mistake. I came in for the LEFT side. They assured me
that everything looked fine on the left side but there were some
suspicious looking calcifications on the right. After further
tests, I was diagnosed with in situ carcinoma (cancer in the breast
ducts). It was very, very early and I went through six weeks of
During that time, I started reading a lot of books including
Dr. Bernie Siegel's "Love, Medicine and Miracles."
One book that really hit home was Dr. Carl Simonton's "Getting
Well Again." There were sections in that book where I
sobbed because it was like someone had been following me for 15
years and knew everything I had done and said. I learned so much.
I changed dramatically and so did my life.
Several years later I was suffering from severe fatigue and terrible
bruising. I was diagnosed with hairy cell leukemia. This time,
chemotherapy was needed and so I went through that process. I'm
proud to say that I've now been breast cancer free for 12 years
and leukemia free for four years.
I learned many lessons in this journey. I share them with you
so hopefully, if any of this fits, you can begin making changes
in your life to avoid getting hit with the same two by four that
1. There is no someday. There's only now. There's a story
called "Precious Present" which talks about a mysterious
man telling of an elusive present. The point of the story is that
being "present" by enjoying the moments in your life
is the best gift of all. It's good to plan for the future, but
remember to LIVE TODAY. Don't put off playing with the kids, using
your best china, doing all those things you want to do "someday."
We truly do not know what tomorrow brings. Be aware of what's
happening, really listen to others and trust your instincts. Your
life can be so much richer by learning to be present even for
just a few minutes each day.
2. Own and express your true feelings. For most of my
life, I would do things I didn't want to do. I always worried
about saying no to others. When I got the leukemia I knew that
the fatigue wasn't just from the disease. It was also from 20
years of pent-up resentment for doing things and going places
because I felt I "had" to. I've learned to express my
feelings. Now I say no to things that I don't want to do. But
I also tell people I love them more often. I tell my kids "I'm
sorry" when I've made mistakes (and I make plenty!) I talk
to others about my fears, my depression (which plagued me for
years) and my failures as well as my successes. Being honest has
lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. Interestingly, in the process
of becoming more direct, I've become kinder. There's no resentment
when you speak from the heart.
3. I'm not a victim. I choose how I react to situations.
Sometimes people ask "Why me?" Except for a brief moment,
I didn't travel down that road. I knew there were lessons I needed
to learn. Yes, some days just plain sucked with nausea and fatigue,
but I also knew that many others have symptoms 1000 times worse
than mine. When you're open to the lessons, you can move through
your situation so much easier and faster.
4. Take care of myself first. When traveling on airplanes
we always hear that in case of emergencies to put on our oxygen
mask first, THEN take care of others. That's a major life lesson.
If we don't take care of ourselves first, then we have nothing
to give others. I had excellent doctors, but I've learned that
I need to know my body and what it needs. All aspects of our life
are our responsibility. Get to know you. If you feel better after
eating protein, eat it. If you need 8 hours of sleep a night,
find a way to get it. You'll function much better because that's
what YOU need
not what a book recommends. It's the same with
emotions (see #2). Speak from your heart. And spiritually, find
the path that's right for you. It all comes together to make a
wonderful YOU, and then you can be there for others.
5. Ask for help. Sell the SuperWoman cape on ebay! Asking
for help gives others a chance to share their gifts and love.
Plus, you'll weigh less because the "I have to do everything"
cape is really heavy.
6. Watch your words and especially your thoughts. I believe
that our "thoughts create." With my cancer, I KNEW I
was going to be cancer-free. But earlier in my life I was very
critical, judgmental and negative. Watch your words and thoughts
for an hour. Did you say or think thoughts like "I'm always
tired," "We can't afford that," "I could never
do that"? If you keep thinking or saying those things, guess
what shows up in your life? Yep
You are tired, you can't
afford that item and you'll never do that. I challenge you to
eliminate the negatives. Guard your words. They are powerful.
7. There is a reason for all things. Many times things
happen in our lives and we don't understand. We are a small cog
in a much bigger picture. Just trust and stay positive. As you
get older, you'll smile at how you've weaved this beautiful tapestry
called "My Life."
8. Get rid of stress. Stress is toxic and it can lead
to serious health problems - physically and emotionally. If you
are in a stressful situation, GET OUT of it -- whether it's an
abusive relationship, a terrible job, or living in a place or
city you don't like. Stress eventually wins by wearing you out.
So read #9.
9. If you don't like your life, change it! This and #8
are easier said than done, but if you want a happier and healthier
life, start making some changes. If you are thinking defeating
thoughts, work on creating more positive affirmations. If you've
always wanted to learn how to play the piano, start taking lessons.
If you've always wanted your own home business, find something
that sounds fun and start it! As the saying goes, "Life is
like a buffet table. You can have whatever you want, but you've
got to get up and go get it." And go back and read #5 and
ask for help from people you trust.
10. Laugh often. Don't take life so seriously. All of
us have challenges. Don't get upset and angry. Laugh more and
know that "This too shall pass."
11. (Bonus Lesson) Reread these often. Life has a way
of intruding and making us forget what we've learned. Print this
off and re-read it often.
You deserve happiness, love, peace and joy. Don't let anyone
or anything steal that. Blessings
About the Author
Donna Davis lives in Tucson, AZ with her husband Bill,
their two sons and two dogs. Donna has owned several businesses
including a wellness business and an accounting service. To learn
more about Donna, her business and how she helps others achieve
their dreams visit http://www.myfuncandlebiz.com.
Is Your Purpose
Strong as a Mosquito's?
by Sue Urda
could one small mosquito create such a huge stir? It's simple. It
decided what it wanted: your blood. It took action: bit you. In that
moment when the mosquito bites you, sucks your blood and then withdraws,
it is fulfilling one of the primary functions of its' short life.
The mosquito needs protein from the blood of a mammal, so it can lay
eggs. Without it, the eggs cannot be laid. The only other purpose
a mosquito has in life is to mate.
Are you fulfilling your primary function, your purpose
in this life? Do you know what it is? Many of us cringe when we hear
these questions. "I have a purpose in life? I can't figure it
out. Why didn't anyone ever tell me what it is? It's not on my birth
Maybe our purpose isn't blatantly obvious to us, and
maybe it doesn't become clear to us until many years into our lives,
so we struggle with questions of direction and meaning. What is important
to remember is that no matter what we do or what we don't do - in
each moment of each day we are making a difference whether we are
aware of it or not - whether we intend to or not.
Our actions and words set examples for everyone around
us; our children, coworkers, family, friends - everyone around us
is affected by what we decide to do or not to do. Spending even a
single dollar at the grocery store can affect the economy of many
countries and the people in them. Throwing one soda can into a stream
can affect the ecology for miles around. Planting trees on a hillside
can affect the air around our whole planet. A smile to the gas station
attendant can make his whole day!
Here are a few single individuals who have made a BIG
difference in this world: Helen Keller, The little boy with his finger
in the dike, Erma Bombeck, Your Parents (you're here, aren't you?),
Oprah, Sadam Hussein, Mother Teresa, Your neighbor, Martha Stewart,
Gloria Steinem, Anthony Robbins, Mary Kay Ash, T. Harv Eker, Elanor
Roosevelt, Abraham Lincoln, Marie Curie, Debbie Fields, Rosa Parks,
Wayne Dyer, Susan G. Komen, Walt Disney, Princess Diana, Mrs. Barrett
(my 8th grade teacher who told me that I should keep writing).
What did these people possess that transformed them
from someone ordinary to someone extraordinary? They started with
a dream. They honed their purpose. They created a clear vision and
added the desire from their heart and soul. And then, perhaps the
most important part - they took action. They believed in the beauty
and importance of their dreams so much that they took action. They
were conscious and aware that what they chose could make a difference,
and they moved forward. They did something.
Never underestimate the effects of your actions in one
moment of time. What can you do this week? What WILL you do?
About the Author
Sue Urda is the Co-Founder of Powerful You! Women's Network and a
two-time Inc. 500 Fastest-Growing Private Companies honoree. Her vision
is to contribute to a global consciousness of women helping women
succeed in business and in life and to expand Powerful You! by creating
chapters around the US and beyond. Sue's mission is to create venues
for women to grow their businesses and nurture relationships, and
to foster empowerment, gratitude and self-development. www.powerfulyou.com
Are You Chasing
the Right Dream?
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Personal Achievement Coach
© 2005 All Rights Reserved
greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter
their lives by altering their attitudes of mind."
~~ William James, famed psychologist
Achieving certain dreams often requires FAR LESS WORK
than achieving other, seemingly easier goals.
Why is that so?
Because it is much, much harder to work for a goal we
do not passionately desire. But when you manage to get yourself focused
on what is naturally of passionate interest to you -- your work becomes
Are Your Goals a "Good Fit?"
Hopefully you've invested some thought clarifying your life goals
... and you know exactly what you want. So why not take a few minutes
to ask yourself an important question -- am I pursuing the right goal
Heres why that is so important: You'll never really
achieve your true potential as long as you pour your energy into something
that doesnt really fit your true passions and interests! Does
that seem too simple?
Think about that for a moment. Its unfortunately
very easy to automatically adopt someone elses goal. We were
trained to do that very thing as children.
Ninty-nine percent of us were fully expected to achieve
the goals our parents and educational system set out for us. Some
of us gave in and tried to do so. Some of us rebelled and learned
to fail instead. And some of us felt somehow inadequate because we
did not have the natural interest and/or aptitude to do what we were
expected to do.
If you find you never seem to achieve your goals, you
may be setting goals you don't really desire or believe in for yourself.
This is never going to lead to success. What it will
lead to is one false start after another - and a tendency to
want to quit after the first bump in the road.
This is a major dead-end, and will do nothing but gradually
erode your self confidence.
Ask Yourself This...
You need to be sure your goal really is YOUR goal for YOUR life. If
you feel resistance, take a serious look at that. Ask yourself who
you might really be setting that goal for?
Then ask yourself if you really have a burning passion
for that goal, and are willing to butt heads with as many so-called
failures as necessary to achieve it.
If your answer is no - this may be a good time to revisit your
goal setting exercise.
Selecting an Appropriate Goal
Three things will happen if you make the effort to refocus yourself
around a goal that is more in keeping with your natural talents and
--First, you will be happier, less stressed, and far
--Second, you will be far more likely to hang in as you hit those
jarring bumps in the road.
--And third, there is a higher probability you will achieve a level
of excellence at what youre doing. This increases your "value"
-- thereby increasing your potential for increased return on your
So put your goal to the test. Does it truly "measure
up" to your innermost desires?
The secrets of goal achievement are actually quite clear cut:
--Have burning passion for what is desired,
--Set a clear and exact goal to get it,
--Make an absolute commitment to achieve the goal,
--Be willing to pay the price for achieving it, and
--Commit to focused action, focused action and more focused action!
Now ... ask yourself this question: Is 2006 going to be any different
than 2005? How? And what do I have to do NOW to make next year more
of what I want? Are YOU motivated to improve your probability of achieving
your goals in 2006 -- and become a whole lot happier and successful?